Can I Date with Herpes?

Yes! You can have a fulfilled sex life after you have contracted herpes.
  • If you think you have herpes, see your doctor as soon as possible. It is easier to diagnose when there are sores. You can start treatment sooner and perhaps have less pain with the infection.

    You must always tell a potential partner that you have herpes before you engage in any sexual activity. Pick the right time, present the facts, and keep a positive attitude. Consistent and careful use of latex condoms and dental dams with each sexual act can help prevent spreading the virus to your partner. Barriers help lower the risk, but cannot guarantee protection from herpes. Not all herpes sores may be contained in the area covered by condoms.

    Abstain from sex during the prodromal (tingling) stage, through the active sore stage, to prevent transmission. But even if you don’t have symptoms, you can still infect your partner.

    Limit your number of sex partners.

    HSV-1 is mainly transmitted by oral to oral contact to cause sores in the facial area commonly referred to as “cold sores”. If someone performs oral sex, with a cold sore (HSV-1), without using a condom or dental dam, the person receiving oral sex can contract HSV-1 on their genitals.

    HSV-2 causes genital herpes which is usually below the waist, and usually contracted with genital to genital sex. But if a person is giving someone oral sex who has an HSV-2 outbreak on their genitals, that person could contract HSV-2 in the facial area if a condom or dental dam is not used.

    Be mindful that infection with HSV-2 increases the risk of acquiring HIV infection approximately 2- to 4-fold. The sores are a break in the skin or mucous membranes of the mouth, vagina, or rectum. A herpes infection can compromise the protection normally provided by the skin and mucous membranes. A person with HSV-2, also has more CD4 cells, the cells that HIV targets to invade the body.

    Consistent use of suppressive antiviral therapy helps your immune system ward off recurrent outbreaks.

    Take H-Eraser and H-Eraser + to help keep your virus in a dormant state.

    Be prepared for rejection when you have “the talk” with a prospective partner. Understand there is a risk on their part, but remember you are more than the herpes virus, and you will find someone who wants to be with you.